Okay y’all I am having boyfriend issues. Basically he does not like my natural hair. Now he wont come straight out and admit it but he says little sly comments that make me feel like he really doesn’t care for it.
First of all he went ballistic when I cut it all off . He damn near hyper ventilated. He threatened to kill the barber and begged me to never put a pair of clippers next to my head. Then he went and purchased me all kinds of hats to wear. When I started cursing him out he said I was over reacting, he only purchased them because he thought they were cute. I called him a damn lie. Needless to say I have never worn any of the hats. And I will not… I’m trying to prove a point. At that time he said he was cool with the natural hair but not with the bald look.
He hates the fro and I can’t blame him, I’m not too crazy about the small fro either so we both agree on that. He kinda liked it when I had my hair in twist he said that was pretty a few times. So now my hair has grown and the comb twist seems to take too long (2.5 hours weekly). Now I two strand twist them.. like in the pictures above and he aint too crazy about that style. I told him I was gonna get my hair braided to help it grow plus I was tired of twisting it weekly.
Man he has been worrying the hell out of my about getting it braided. I told him that I like my natural hair and I understand because he is from Los Angles that he may think that long weaves and relaxed hair is more attractive. He swears I am flipping out and he just feels that my hair would do better in braids than the twist. Of course I am looking at him crossed eyed like yeah right. He says I am too sensitive about my hair. I told him I was not relaxing my hair nor would I be willing to wear a glued in or sowed in weave.
I have never fought with a man about hair before. Most men I dated really could care less about my hair style. As long as it was combed and decent looking there was no problems. He gonna have to get his mind right. I told him that I was not gonna argue with him about MY hair and there was nothing he can do about it. He says I am being dramatic and going flipping out. I just want him to know where I stand and I refuse to back down. But then again so does he!
1 comment:
I understand where some of your frustrations are coming from. I have been in a relationship where my MAN wanted me to look "put together" in his mind it was no signs of naps or of sudden slave hair styling lol. but that was in the days of long ago. Hair to a man makes a woman so I understand him loving your old hair and plus men get comfortable on a look that their woman has going on. and sudden change can cause ... less say... a little Post-Traumatic Stress ... Best wishes to your new journey.
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