Natural and Loving It

I am on another journey with my hair. My hair has personality. It is thick, dense, coily, resistant to most hair products, loves moisture and hates a lot of manipulation. Prior to going natural I knew none of this! Sometimes I love my hair sometimes I hate my hair. Yes, we have a love hate relationship. Now that I do not have locks I have to deal head on with lose nappy hair. On some levels the locks were easier to deal with. But I want to experience all forms of my natural hair. My hair is growing like a weed and that is mostly thanks to the twist.













Yes honey I have a lot of lil twist on my head. As my hair grows the twist get bigger and thicker. It takes my friend at least two hours to twist my entire head. But on the upside the twist last two weeks. I can"t wait for my hair to grow out a little more. I can't wait to try all the natural hair styles that require a lil length.

I still rock a fro. The fro is the quintessential natural hair style. It symbolizes strength and pure fierceness.

Wig or not to Wig .... That is the Question

Last Friday I had my mind set on purchasing a wig. I already kind of knew what I wanted the wig to look like and I must admit I was a little excited. The reason I wanted the wig was for a little diversity in my hair options. Right now I'm limited to the fro and the lil twisties. I was tired of both of those styles.

I go to the Wig Emporium... which is a huge wig warehouse. There were hundreds of wigs everywhere. There were long wigs, short wigs, curly wigs, straight wigs, nappy wigs, lace front wigs. It was almost product over load.

I looked and I looked and finally decided on two wigs I could possibly live with. The lady sat me down put a wig cap on my head and placed the wig around my skull. I looked in the mirror and felt fake. Plus the wig was super tight on my head felt like my scalp was being smothered slowly.

I kept looking and looking at myself in the mirror and did not feel like the wig was me. I have gotten so accustomed to wearing my authentic hair that wearing a wig felt foreign.

I was actually shocked I felt that way giving the fact that I used to be the wig and weave queen. Not to mention I longed to have long hair once I cut off my locks.
I kind of felt good about it. I snatched the wig off my head and told the lady no thanks.

Im against wigs maybe I can do braids.

A Lil Bit of Hair Goes A Long Way

My friend looked at my hair about a month ago and said..." I think I can twist your hair". I pulled at my lil hair and said, "girl do you think it's enough to twist"? She was confidant that she could get the job done. And BAM check the pic.






I have been getting my hair twisted for about a month now. I can honestly say the growth rate has sped up since I keep it twisted. But I still rock the fro. I will wear the fro for one week and wear the twist for three weeks. This way it gives me different ways to wear my hair.

I am growing to like both looks. Of course I can't wait to get some length but I am enjoying the journey..... just like I did with my locs.

People have been asking me if I would consider getting locs again. Of course I will consider it. Most likely I will do it again in the future I am just not sure when I will travel down that path again. I want to have a full experience with my natural hair so I want to wear it all kinds of ways before I go back to locks.

Looking Girlish

It's hard rocking a girlish look when you have a tiny wenny afro (TWA). I have been wearing makeup and big earrings trying to give myself a more feminine look. Well I found these head bands at Lane Bryant and I just had to have them. I know some of you may be saying girrrrl you need to grow some hair before start wearing head bands. But shoot I could not wait and I love flowers!





I did a little eye makeup and a lil lip gloss and I thought I was looking real fashion forward. My motto is do you. If it makes you feel good and you think you look good then I say go for it. Always go for what enhances you and make you feel better.

Beautiful Natural Beauties

To me nothing says pure beauty than a woman that is a natural beauty. A natural beauty loves herself and doesn't feel the need to wrap herself in insecurities. When she smiles she lights up a room, she just has a certain ummmp about her. Although a natural beauty doesn't have to wear her hair natural. But today I would like to highlight some of my favorite natural beauties.




This is one of my besties. Regina has been natural for about four years. She wore her hair in a short fade and then decided to grow it out. All that hair you see grew out in only two years! Doesn't she look lovely. She rocks her fro with style and class.



Next is me! I love my look. It is so natural and simple. I love it when it looks good but it is simple. I am in the process of growing out my fade. My goal is to let my hair grow as long and healthy as it possibly can grow. I am learning that my hair craves moisture and is very dense and course. Very.....course. Right now I am wearing a small fro but looking simply naturally marvelous.




Next up is Richelle. Richelle is my co-worker and a pure inspiration. Rarely do I catch Richelle in a bad mood and she has a smile that lights up our call center! Richelle did the big chop about 3 months ago and doesn't she look like she was meant to be a natural beauty. Richelle is very versatile with her hair, one day she may rock her fro the next she may two strand twist it. She is a diva.




This is Nikki my business partner in crime. We sit next to each other at work and we get the job done! Nikki has been natural for about 3 years. She wore braids to grow out her hair and slowly chopped the perm out until it was all gone. Nikki likes to wear her hair curly. She puts a little gel and conditioner with a little olive oil in her hair and it curls right on up. Nikki looks great with her natural hair. Her hair is healthy and very soft.

Product Review

Since I cut off my locks I am back to being a product junkie. I know I should know better but lets face it, what works with locked hair doesn't necessarily work the same with loose hair.

My hair is #4 and is very thick and tightly curled. The curl is S shaped and since it is short the curls are very close to my scalp. Of course I want to highlight the curls and I plan on trying products that will bring out the curliness in my course hair.

Currently I am using Carol's Daughter Hair Milk what is suppose to define curls. I am also using the Tui oil to keep my scalp moist.




The Tui Oil smells grrrrrrrrrrreat and I really like using it. I cant boast of any added benefits outside the smell. My scalp seems to like it as it is not flaky or anything. It's easy to get carried away with the oil, which I have several times. Oil be running down the side of my face..... reminiscent of my Jerri Curl days. It also works well as a hot oil treatment. This product is what I call a luxe product because the benefits can be achieved by purchasing some Hot Six oil found in the beauty supply store. Hell, or any oil of you prefer.






Now this moisturizer is suppose to define the curls in my hair. Well it is very thin and my thirsty hair will devour anything that is thinner than the consistency of yogurt. By itself my hair will be dry and brittle by 10am, so I often add leave in conditioner and a little spritz of water infused with the Tui oil. Once I do this my hair seems to be a little softer and the curls seem to be highlight. This product may work well for women with thinner hair or those with a little wave but it does nothing for me. I will not purchase this product again it was a total waste of money.




This shampoo smells good and my hair seems to feel very curly when I am in the shower. However it could be the water making it extra curly. Again this is a luxe item. In my opinion shampoo is for cleaning the scalp and the hair only. I've never met a shampoo that did any more than that. They may be out there but I have not experienced them. I would probably not purchase this product again either. Maybe once I try another shampoo I can compare the two and better determine if it was worth the money. But right now I am pretty sure that it doesn't help define the curls.




In the next week or so I have some Miss Jessie's products coming. I will review these products as well.

1st Stage of Growing Process

In 2007 when I first got my sisterlocks I looked like a scared chicken. I knew I looked semi crazy by the head but I convinced myself that it was only for a little while and in the end it would pay off. Yes..... it did pay off in the end, by the next year no one remember that I looked like a scared chicken by the head. I must admit it was a test of my self-esteem and I often made my self walk out the door. In all honesty I wanted to wear a wig so bad to hide the crazy looking locks. After going through that process I was sure my self-esteem was in tack and that my hair no longer defined me.








Fast forward 4 years and I decided to cut my sisterlocks off. In 2011 I was rocking a low fade look. In the photo above I thought I looked chic and sexy. My make up look amazing and my face really pops. This look actually made me feel empowered. I felt
like I was giving the world the middle finger by saying this is me to hell with you if you dont like it.









Now it is August 2011 and I have not had a hair cut in over a month. I decided that I wanted to grow my natural hair out to see how healthy and long I could grow it.
Let just tell you I feel just like I did during my scared chicken days. There are days that I get up and no matter what type of moisturizer or pudding I put in my head it still look like I need a hair cut really bad. This Friday was really hard for me. I was going out with my girl and I just did not feel pretty. The hair just looked a mess to me. I put on my make up and glossed my lips but my head still looked unkempt to me. I thought I conquered this hair thing.....but I haven't. I will continue to update you on the progress of my hair.


Growing my hair is going to be a journey similar to growing my locks. There will be good days bad days and ugly days. But like the locks in the end it will be worth it.

Notice the name change?

I've changed the name of my blog and that could only mean one thing. You guessed I no longer have my sisterlocks. A moment of silence please! Yes the sisterlocks are gone and I am starting over from scratch.



I cut them off out of frustration and anger. Many of them and fallen out. I really dont know the reason why they fell out they just did. I have a few theorys but nothing solid. But what I did notice is they all fell out around the hair line. The locks were really small around the hair line and was held together by a small amount of hair. Trust and believe this was not an easy decision but I felt it was the best decision for me. I had installed 17 new locks and the other day I lost another 3 it seemed like I was fighting an uphill battle and I was on the losing end of the battle. I was missing over 30 locks and it was getting very hard to hide the fact that a cluster of locks were missing in a single area. I was doing a lot of updos but that was putting more stress on the locks around the hair line and it was starting to hurt. If I was not rocking an updo I had at least 7 hair pins in my hair to keep the missing locks from showing. It was starting to feel like a contraption instead of my beautiful locks.

Then there was the fear of looking crazy. I was scared of looking too hard if I shaved off my locks. I wanted to keep in sexy and feminine and I was afraid of all the questions I would get. I hesitated for about a week. Then my co-worker ( a man by the way) inspired to do what was best for me and what was in my heart to do. So Thursday night I ran home and grabbed a pair of scissors and cut out a chunck of my locks. Once I started cutting I could not stop. Then I looked in the mirror and saw what looked like a bald chicken. I looked at my locks in a heap on the bathroom floor and felt bad for about 3 minutes. I jumped in the shower and washed my remaining hair. OMG it was almost orgasmic.....feeling the hot water hit my scalp directly felt soooooo good. I forgot I good it felt to have water hit your head like that. I only used a dime size of shampoo and my head had leather for days! The next morning I went to the barber and she hooked me right up. I felt like a sex kitten when she was done. I also looked younger! The journey of my locks taught me that I am beautiful with or without hair. Because the begining months of sisterlocks was not easy either... it didnt look good to me until after about 8 months. But it made me find the real beauty in me instead of looking for my hair to hold all my beauty. I will rock this low fade until August then I will start growning my hair back out.

My plan is to grow my hair and rock it loose for awhile and if the spirit moves me I might lock it again. I doubt I will do sisterlocks because they were just a little to small. I may do brother locks or traditional locks. What I know for sure is that I will be natural going forward. I will continue to blog about my journey and my experience with my hair so stay turned.

Just Because

I know I have not posted full pics of my head lately. Judging by my recent description of my hair situation many may think I look a hot mess by the head daily. Well … I used to but know I can disguise the problem areas a little bit more. Here are a few pics of me with an updo……… BTW excuse the messy bathroom the lighting is just a little bit better in there!

Come To Jesus Moment

Hey Everybody,


My locks are finally taking a turn for the better. About six months ago I decided to start DIY’ing my locks. There were many challenges; a few of my locks were knotted up because I did not pull the lock through the hole tight enough. I was scarred to handle my locks too aggressively at the time. Then there was the issue of thinning locks. More than a few of my locks were very thin at the root. I am still not sure who to blame on this one. My consultant retighten my hair with a crochet hook, which could have pulled out too many hairs at the base. I did not notice this problem until I started DIY’ing. At first I was just very careful when I did my reti but then some of them got so thin they were hanging on to 3-4 hairs. Eventually a few came out at the root (white ball still attached to hair). I had about 6 locks just come straight out my head, creating bald spots.

I had between 25 and 30 weak locks, most were so weak they could not be combined because any manipulation would cause them to break directly from the scalp. So I decided to cut the weak locks off, this was a dramatic step. I have over 400 locks so removing 25 to 30 seemed like a breeze. Well it was not! I had missing locks all over my head! My hair looked a mess, I had about ½ inch of loose hair in various places of my head. I was missing at least 8 locks right at the front of my hair line, 7 at the very top, 4 each on the left and right side of the head and about 6 at the nape of my neck. My hair broke off badly at the hairlines because the roots of the locks were so thin in at area and the locks were hanging on by a thread.


I was really upset and thought about removing my locks and starting over. I didn’t know if I should be mad at my consultant or mad at myself for letting this happen. Then I watch a YouTube video from Necoleisthenewblack and she was discussing her locking journey, she basically said she DIYs and make many mistakes but it is apart of the journey. This inspired me to keep my locks and just wait it out.

In the meantime I started back using Carol’s Daughter products because I needed my hair to grow asap. Then I began to twist all the short loose hairs and pinning them down out of the way. It had the appearance that they were locked and it didn’t look so crazy anymore.


Finally after 3 ½ months the hair was finally long enough to lock. Last week I put 17 new baby locks in my head. The new locks are mostly in the top of my head, the hair lining and the nape. You read right I put the locks in myself with the nappy lock tool. I was very proud of myself. I am totally self reliant with my locks, I do have access to a consultant if I need assistance.


Let me just say this has not been an easy journey and there has defiantly been some mountain top and valley moments. I am still waiting on some sections to grow out so I can lock them, I suspect the ones that fell out at the root may not be ready until the end of the year or the beginning of next year. But I am now a master at making a bad hair day look good. My friend Gina is good a braiding my locks to hide unsightly areas. I was a little upset because there was not a lot of documentation online to discuss the issues I was having with my locks. Of course there were many singing the praises of sisterlocks but non addressing detrimental issues. What I will say is if you are having problems with your locks please don’t get discouraged… consult a knowledgeable locktian or consultant… but remember you may have to take drastic measures and do be afraid of that. Each of our journeys is different and bad things are to be expected. Below is a pic of two of my new babies on the hairline