Nappy Hair + Vain Man = PROBLEMS

Okay y’all I am having boyfriend issues. Basically he does not like my natural hair. Now he wont come straight out and admit it but he says little sly comments that make me feel like he really doesn’t care for it.
First of all he went ballistic when I cut it all off . He damn near hyper ventilated. He threatened to kill the barber and begged me to never put a pair of clippers next to my head. Then he went and purchased me all kinds of hats to wear. When I started cursing him out he said I was over reacting, he only purchased them because he thought they were cute. I called him a damn lie. Needless to say I have never worn any of the hats. And I will not… I’m trying to prove a point. At that time he said he was cool with the natural hair but not with the bald look.
He hates the fro and I can’t blame him, I’m not too crazy about the small fro either so we both agree on that. He kinda liked it when I had my hair in twist he said that was pretty a few times. So now my hair has grown and the comb twist seems to take too long (2.5 hours weekly). Now I two strand twist them.. like in the pictures above and he aint too crazy about that style. I told him I was gonna get my hair braided to help it grow plus I was tired of twisting it weekly.


Man he has been worrying the hell out of my about getting it braided. I told him that I like my natural hair and I understand because he is from Los Angles that he may think that long weaves and relaxed hair is more attractive. He swears I am flipping out and he just feels that my hair would do better in braids than the twist. Of course I am looking at him crossed eyed like yeah right. He says I am too sensitive about my hair. I told him I was not relaxing my hair nor would I be willing to wear a glued in or sowed in weave.

I have never fought with a man about hair before. Most men I dated really could care less about my hair style. As long as it was combed and decent looking there was no problems. He gonna have to get his mind right. I told him that I was not gonna argue with him about MY hair and there was nothing he can do about it. He says I am being dramatic and going flipping out. I just want him to know where I stand and I refuse to back down. But then again so does he!

Product Reviews and Growth Report

Right now I am loving my hair. My hair goes through stages, sometimes I love it, others time not so much. It is getting to the point where it is growing and the twist are actually standing up off my head. I love my hair to have height and depth. I can stand my hair to be too flat.




Right now I am using a few products that I absolutely love. The first one is Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango Butter. I use this product to two strand twist my hair. It is thick as pudding and really moisturizes my kinky course tresses. Now the one down fall about this product is the color. It is white and takes awhile to dissipate into the hair. When I put the product into my hair it looks white for awhile. No matter how much you rub this product in your palms it will not change into a clear substance. I normally do my hair at night and in the morning the whiteness is completely gone.






Once completely twist my hair with the Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango Butter. I seal the ends with Organix Coconut anti breakage serum. This is a great product and it really keep my ends from breaking off while strengthen my hair. I put this on my ends every three to four days at night when I tie my hair down.







For daily moisture I use Jamaican lime and mango locking gel. This product smells great and it is in a gel form. I use about a quarter size of this everyday on my twist. It makes my hair more pliable and supple. The second product is S Curl spray moisturizing activator. Yes, I know when haven’t seen this in awhile. But this stuff actually works. It also moisturizes my hair, makes it soft and adds sheen. The same thing it did for the curl…. It does for the natural hair as well.














My hair is super course and kinky and coily. It absolutely loves moisture and behaves best when it is completely and fully moisturized and shown love on a daily basis. If my hair does not have the proper moisture levels it will get really hard and break off easily.

The wonderful things about the above products is none of them cost more than $8.00 and can be found in Walgreens. I have tried so many of the more expensive products and they do not work on my hair type. So far these products are doing the job and my hair is growing.

Natural and Loving It

I am on another journey with my hair. My hair has personality. It is thick, dense, coily, resistant to most hair products, loves moisture and hates a lot of manipulation. Prior to going natural I knew none of this! Sometimes I love my hair sometimes I hate my hair. Yes, we have a love hate relationship. Now that I do not have locks I have to deal head on with lose nappy hair. On some levels the locks were easier to deal with. But I want to experience all forms of my natural hair. My hair is growing like a weed and that is mostly thanks to the twist.













Yes honey I have a lot of lil twist on my head. As my hair grows the twist get bigger and thicker. It takes my friend at least two hours to twist my entire head. But on the upside the twist last two weeks. I can"t wait for my hair to grow out a little more. I can't wait to try all the natural hair styles that require a lil length.

I still rock a fro. The fro is the quintessential natural hair style. It symbolizes strength and pure fierceness.

Wig or not to Wig .... That is the Question

Last Friday I had my mind set on purchasing a wig. I already kind of knew what I wanted the wig to look like and I must admit I was a little excited. The reason I wanted the wig was for a little diversity in my hair options. Right now I'm limited to the fro and the lil twisties. I was tired of both of those styles.

I go to the Wig Emporium... which is a huge wig warehouse. There were hundreds of wigs everywhere. There were long wigs, short wigs, curly wigs, straight wigs, nappy wigs, lace front wigs. It was almost product over load.

I looked and I looked and finally decided on two wigs I could possibly live with. The lady sat me down put a wig cap on my head and placed the wig around my skull. I looked in the mirror and felt fake. Plus the wig was super tight on my head felt like my scalp was being smothered slowly.

I kept looking and looking at myself in the mirror and did not feel like the wig was me. I have gotten so accustomed to wearing my authentic hair that wearing a wig felt foreign.

I was actually shocked I felt that way giving the fact that I used to be the wig and weave queen. Not to mention I longed to have long hair once I cut off my locks.
I kind of felt good about it. I snatched the wig off my head and told the lady no thanks.

Im against wigs maybe I can do braids.

A Lil Bit of Hair Goes A Long Way

My friend looked at my hair about a month ago and said..." I think I can twist your hair". I pulled at my lil hair and said, "girl do you think it's enough to twist"? She was confidant that she could get the job done. And BAM check the pic.






I have been getting my hair twisted for about a month now. I can honestly say the growth rate has sped up since I keep it twisted. But I still rock the fro. I will wear the fro for one week and wear the twist for three weeks. This way it gives me different ways to wear my hair.

I am growing to like both looks. Of course I can't wait to get some length but I am enjoying the journey..... just like I did with my locs.

People have been asking me if I would consider getting locs again. Of course I will consider it. Most likely I will do it again in the future I am just not sure when I will travel down that path again. I want to have a full experience with my natural hair so I want to wear it all kinds of ways before I go back to locks.

Looking Girlish

It's hard rocking a girlish look when you have a tiny wenny afro (TWA). I have been wearing makeup and big earrings trying to give myself a more feminine look. Well I found these head bands at Lane Bryant and I just had to have them. I know some of you may be saying girrrrl you need to grow some hair before start wearing head bands. But shoot I could not wait and I love flowers!





I did a little eye makeup and a lil lip gloss and I thought I was looking real fashion forward. My motto is do you. If it makes you feel good and you think you look good then I say go for it. Always go for what enhances you and make you feel better.

Beautiful Natural Beauties

To me nothing says pure beauty than a woman that is a natural beauty. A natural beauty loves herself and doesn't feel the need to wrap herself in insecurities. When she smiles she lights up a room, she just has a certain ummmp about her. Although a natural beauty doesn't have to wear her hair natural. But today I would like to highlight some of my favorite natural beauties.




This is one of my besties. Regina has been natural for about four years. She wore her hair in a short fade and then decided to grow it out. All that hair you see grew out in only two years! Doesn't she look lovely. She rocks her fro with style and class.



Next is me! I love my look. It is so natural and simple. I love it when it looks good but it is simple. I am in the process of growing out my fade. My goal is to let my hair grow as long and healthy as it possibly can grow. I am learning that my hair craves moisture and is very dense and course. Very.....course. Right now I am wearing a small fro but looking simply naturally marvelous.




Next up is Richelle. Richelle is my co-worker and a pure inspiration. Rarely do I catch Richelle in a bad mood and she has a smile that lights up our call center! Richelle did the big chop about 3 months ago and doesn't she look like she was meant to be a natural beauty. Richelle is very versatile with her hair, one day she may rock her fro the next she may two strand twist it. She is a diva.




This is Nikki my business partner in crime. We sit next to each other at work and we get the job done! Nikki has been natural for about 3 years. She wore braids to grow out her hair and slowly chopped the perm out until it was all gone. Nikki likes to wear her hair curly. She puts a little gel and conditioner with a little olive oil in her hair and it curls right on up. Nikki looks great with her natural hair. Her hair is healthy and very soft.