WEAVALIOUS

Yes baby doll ya girl is now rocking a weave. About a year ago that was not a possibility for me. My how time and pressure changes things. My guy hates my natural hair. I am surprised he has not given me a relaxer in my sleep. But he really hated the bald fade so he will take the nappy over no hair at all. Then there is the whole thing I deal with about not feeling sexy or cute with a bunch of short nappy hair. My hair is very course, super dry, insanely thick, zig zag curl pattern and surprisingly really fragile. My hair breaks very easily. My hair is so thick that getting a comb through it when it is dry is only asking for trouble. Actually I don’t know what I am going to do when it grows out. It will be so much hair it will be hard to tame. But I think next summer I’m going back to a low hair cut… not a bald fade but a low cut.

Presently I am feeling this weave. It is from All About My Hair and it is kinky curly (kc) this hair is much nicer than my real hair but it is as close as I’m going to get . My hair actually blends well and the look is very much me. The hair is soft to the touch and love moisture just like my real hair. This is my first sew in weave and the first two days were difficult. The guy sew the hair in tight. The braids were not tight but once he put the thread and hair on it was very tight. It felt like I had a head full of braids. After two days the pain went away but the itching started. Wow the itching was no puck. I was scratching my head every two seconds. Some braid spray with tea tree oil seemed to soothe the scalp a little bit. Then the itching started again and I took a pen cap and started scratching in between the parts. My research indicates that this is not uncommon for sew in weaves. I was told to rub some sea breeze on my scalp, trust me I will. This itching is crazy, I never knew this was one of the side effects of sew ins. So two days of pain and two days of itching. I was told once the weave get a bit more loosened that the itching will stop.

If this does not stop I will be forced to take it out. I cant tolerate all this damn itching too much longer!

Weaving It to Achieve It

This natural hair journey is a lot different that when I had locs. For me I was okay rocking my short locs…yes I looked like a scared chicken for a while. However, it was part of the process and people could look and my hair and tell I was attempting to loc. But just wearing my natural loc free hair has been difficult at times. I have said it many times I do not like the way short nappy hair looks on me. Not that it has to be polished it just looks… I don’t know ugly. But on most other naturalistas it looks great!

Well at this moment I’ve decided that I will wear braids or some form of weave until my hair grows out a little more. I have about 4 ½ inches of hair but it shrinks down to about 2 inches. If I’m honest I will admit that my man may have played a part in my hair insecurities. What can I say the man does not like my nappy hair. He would prefer it straight but I refuse to put a relaxer in and he was tired of the braided styles so I have opted towards something that has braids and hair as well. What is with some men addition to “europeanish” hair on black women?

Protective Styling

Hello Everyone,

I know I have been out of touch for awhile……….sorry. My hair is still doing its own thang. This journey is quite different than my loc journey. I absolutely cannot stand the way a TWA looks on me. My hair is about 4 inches long and it seems too long for twist but too short for anything else. So in the mean time I have been wearing braids and weave. I don’t necessarily care for the weave but it helps me look decent while my lovely natural hair grows out. Here are a few of the styles I have been rocking.

Mo Hair...Mo Problems

My hair is growing really fast, but that is not always a good thing. I still have not found a moisturizer that works 100% of the time all the time. My hair is thick and is super course... when it is dry it feels like wool. I fight with my hair all the time. Recently I got so mad at my hair and tired of it feeling like a dry matted piece of wool that I almost thought about a relaxer. Instead I went to the African braid shop and paid 200.00 for them to braid my hair. I hate spending the type of money on my hair but I was really tired of twisting it and the fro was just not appealing to me anymore. Prior to the braids I went to a "natural" hair shop and let them do a lil sumpting sumpting to my hair but it cost 95.00! WTF is up with the natural hair spots charging so damn much money! I thought the whole point of going natural...........at least for me was saving on the cost of doing my hair. I spending money on my nappy head like it is growing on trees. Damn I may be going to the barber again... but that man of mine will be too pissed. He barely survived the first time!

I just wish people quit taking advantage of the natural hair movement. I can see if I had 8-15 inches of thick coily hair that really needed all hands on deck. Shoot I got a solid 4 inches of hair. Do I really need to give you 95.00 to twist it for me!

Nappy Hair + Vain Man = PROBLEMS

Okay y’all I am having boyfriend issues. Basically he does not like my natural hair. Now he wont come straight out and admit it but he says little sly comments that make me feel like he really doesn’t care for it.
First of all he went ballistic when I cut it all off . He damn near hyper ventilated. He threatened to kill the barber and begged me to never put a pair of clippers next to my head. Then he went and purchased me all kinds of hats to wear. When I started cursing him out he said I was over reacting, he only purchased them because he thought they were cute. I called him a damn lie. Needless to say I have never worn any of the hats. And I will not… I’m trying to prove a point. At that time he said he was cool with the natural hair but not with the bald look.
He hates the fro and I can’t blame him, I’m not too crazy about the small fro either so we both agree on that. He kinda liked it when I had my hair in twist he said that was pretty a few times. So now my hair has grown and the comb twist seems to take too long (2.5 hours weekly). Now I two strand twist them.. like in the pictures above and he aint too crazy about that style. I told him I was gonna get my hair braided to help it grow plus I was tired of twisting it weekly.


Man he has been worrying the hell out of my about getting it braided. I told him that I like my natural hair and I understand because he is from Los Angles that he may think that long weaves and relaxed hair is more attractive. He swears I am flipping out and he just feels that my hair would do better in braids than the twist. Of course I am looking at him crossed eyed like yeah right. He says I am too sensitive about my hair. I told him I was not relaxing my hair nor would I be willing to wear a glued in or sowed in weave.

I have never fought with a man about hair before. Most men I dated really could care less about my hair style. As long as it was combed and decent looking there was no problems. He gonna have to get his mind right. I told him that I was not gonna argue with him about MY hair and there was nothing he can do about it. He says I am being dramatic and going flipping out. I just want him to know where I stand and I refuse to back down. But then again so does he!

Product Reviews and Growth Report

Right now I am loving my hair. My hair goes through stages, sometimes I love it, others time not so much. It is getting to the point where it is growing and the twist are actually standing up off my head. I love my hair to have height and depth. I can stand my hair to be too flat.




Right now I am using a few products that I absolutely love. The first one is Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango Butter. I use this product to two strand twist my hair. It is thick as pudding and really moisturizes my kinky course tresses. Now the one down fall about this product is the color. It is white and takes awhile to dissipate into the hair. When I put the product into my hair it looks white for awhile. No matter how much you rub this product in your palms it will not change into a clear substance. I normally do my hair at night and in the morning the whiteness is completely gone.






Once completely twist my hair with the Elasta QP Olive Oil and Mango Butter. I seal the ends with Organix Coconut anti breakage serum. This is a great product and it really keep my ends from breaking off while strengthen my hair. I put this on my ends every three to four days at night when I tie my hair down.







For daily moisture I use Jamaican lime and mango locking gel. This product smells great and it is in a gel form. I use about a quarter size of this everyday on my twist. It makes my hair more pliable and supple. The second product is S Curl spray moisturizing activator. Yes, I know when haven’t seen this in awhile. But this stuff actually works. It also moisturizes my hair, makes it soft and adds sheen. The same thing it did for the curl…. It does for the natural hair as well.














My hair is super course and kinky and coily. It absolutely loves moisture and behaves best when it is completely and fully moisturized and shown love on a daily basis. If my hair does not have the proper moisture levels it will get really hard and break off easily.

The wonderful things about the above products is none of them cost more than $8.00 and can be found in Walgreens. I have tried so many of the more expensive products and they do not work on my hair type. So far these products are doing the job and my hair is growing.

Natural and Loving It

I am on another journey with my hair. My hair has personality. It is thick, dense, coily, resistant to most hair products, loves moisture and hates a lot of manipulation. Prior to going natural I knew none of this! Sometimes I love my hair sometimes I hate my hair. Yes, we have a love hate relationship. Now that I do not have locks I have to deal head on with lose nappy hair. On some levels the locks were easier to deal with. But I want to experience all forms of my natural hair. My hair is growing like a weed and that is mostly thanks to the twist.













Yes honey I have a lot of lil twist on my head. As my hair grows the twist get bigger and thicker. It takes my friend at least two hours to twist my entire head. But on the upside the twist last two weeks. I can"t wait for my hair to grow out a little more. I can't wait to try all the natural hair styles that require a lil length.

I still rock a fro. The fro is the quintessential natural hair style. It symbolizes strength and pure fierceness.